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Double Trouble

I’m running like a week behind here. The struggle is real right now.

When I was at Trainer B’s a few weeks ago, I mentioned my saddle fit woes with P and that I was concerned that perhaps it didn’t fit Leo either. I showed him how I put the saddle on- up pretty forward, then pulling it back until it settled, and he noted that it was still sitting too far forward on Leo’s shoulder and to pull the saddle back even further. Since P has massive shoulders as well, he said to try it with P and see what happened.


That’s the first normal trot I’ve gotten out of him in a year.

Almost like he was trying to tell me something with this:


Yeah, I suck.

So we had normal rides all that week, which led to him getting on a trailer to Trainer B’s with Leo on Labor Day. His first trip back there since July 2018.

Leo went first, while P stared at us from the stall at Trainer B’s that we stuck him in, weaving back and forth like a psycho. Apparently he thought all my threats to leave him with Trainer B had finally come to fruition, because when it was his turn, he turned into a looney toon while Leo walked away and into the stall without so much as a backwards glance at P.

Pilgrim 100%

He leapt besides me as I led him up to the arena and turned into a giraffe when he spotted people, yes, PEOPLE, daring to also be on the grounds. When I first got on, I felt like I was on a ticking time bomb, as he was so jacked up.


He started off just trotting around like a jackhammer, and we worked on flexing him one way, then the other, to get him to use himself properly so he could start to rebuild some muscle.

He had some nice moments for sure, and Trainer B noted his trot has gotten much fancier. Maybe the Foot Hole was the key?

And while his canter is not nearly as smooth as Leo’s, at this point I will take P’s canter transitions over Leo’s.

So relaxed on P


And then there’s Leo coming out of the start gate. Note: These have gotten much better, but still not as nice as P’s

But I’ve always had to work pretty hard to sit P’s canter. He’s a great galloper and it’s so easy (and fun) to just get in half seat and zoom around, but sitting always has me feeling like I’m being tossed around like a salad. For the longest time I thought it was me, until I started riding other horses and having no issues. Sorry P, it’s not me, it’s you.

I’m sure much to P’s sadness, he won’t be frequenting Trainer B’s as often as before, but it was great to have someone who knows P evaluate him and give me some homework. P’s quite a bit more advanced in his training than Leo, but not in as good of shape as Leo is. So both horses are doing a bit of the same thing for now, with P just a few steps ahead.

While I’m used to riding 2 horses back to back, 2 LESSONS back to back was a whole ‘nother bear

And Leo? Leo got to go work in the big boy dressage arena and start to put together elements of a test.



And while there was some giraffe-neck happening, he tried his best to cram his long, gangly body into 20(ish) meter circles, though he was sure to let us know it was VERY VERY HARD.

Had to scroll through 8 minutes of footage to get an unflattering shot of Leo

Then the next day, both boys went out on a 40 minute hack- Leo went first and we had an uneventful time. After riding sure-footed P for years, who has always handled changes in terrain like a champ at any gait, Leo feels so awkward and gangly, and definitely struggles a bit more. So I try to get him walking and trotting up and down the hills in the pastures at least 2x/week.

Checking on P to make sure he hasn’t suicided himself the day after his field trip to Trainer B’s

Then P went out for his 40 minutes and at some point torqued his hind shoe off. Hands up if you’re shocked. No one? Yeah, me either. After taking him to Trainer B’s, BO and I put him on suicide watch , though, so I guess this was nothing in the grand scheme of things.

But the joke was on P, because AGF was already scheduled to come out 36 hours later.

And, because I don’t have media of it (which sucks, because it was SO.GOOD.), a quick recap of Leo’s trip back to Trainer B’s this past Saturday where two things happened:

  1. I fell off him for the first time. I’d been dreading falling off him because he strikes me as the type who’d get freaked and run away. So as I’m falling, all I’m thinking is NOOOOOO, because Trainer B’s arena isn’t fenced in. Clearly I’ll never catch the horse. Imagine my surprise when Leo just stood there like a statue, looking perhaps a little perplexed. What a relief THAT was to get out of the way. And I clambored back on, then we continued on with great success (and I sat up when we turned after jumps after that).
  2.  We jumped 2’6″ jumps over and over (Leo’s first time jumping a vertical over 2′ and anything over 2’3″), and it was all over the crazy fillers that P would’ve (and definitely has) stopped at.
My only picture from that lesson. Leo jumped this (with the top pole in the cups) like a dozen times and was perfection

Including THE gate…want to know how nervous I was trotting Leo up to the gate? You might ask: why in the world would a plain, nondescript tan gate have me so twisted up inside?

In P’s defense, he’d only jumped this exact gate like 100 times. Sigh.
What I show people when they ask why I don’t want to event P anymore.

But guess who didn’t stop at A-N-Y-T-H-I-N-G?

This face






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Oh. Man.

My wonderfully talented photographer friend was with us at CHP for Leo’s 1st XC schooling and snapped some amaze-ball pictures of Leo. SWOON.

I can’t remember if I had fun or not…
Pretty sure I did, though


Picking up legs is optional over little jumps
Me: There’s a tiny green box that needs jumping. Leo: ON IT
Nailed it
I will never not want to canter this horse
But we must turn…
Back to smiling




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Leo Survives…XC Schooling

Back in June, when Leo had been off the track for 30 whole days, I took him to Carolina Horse park for the weekend with P. And while he handled it as well as could be expected, by NORMAL standards, it was sort of a mess.

How Leo looked at everything the last time

Since then Leo has had 23 rides at home and been to Trainer B’s 9 times for lessons, and in my opinion, has come such a long way. But the real test was going to be heading back to Carolina Horse Park for the War Horse schooling day/horse trial, because there’s A LOT going on there.

Friday morning we headed to Trainer B’s for a lesson (in which he was perfect), then left straightaway for CHP. My friend was showing there with her trainer and another client, so I stalled with them, and we had another friend coming in to help out, so a really fun group of day drinkers support.

Did someone say wine?

Leo settled in nicely, then I went to go hook up my trailer in the campsite with the plan of hacking him around the grounds when I got back. Of course as soon as I got back to the barn the heavens opened up and it poured and stormed for about an hour, and I saw my chance of riding slipping away. I was sort of desperate to get on him, though, as I figured my best shot at a calm(ish) ride would be that evening when 1) It wasn’t super crowded, and 2) He’d already been worked that day. So as soon as it stopped downpouring, I tacked him up and we headed out.

Leo willing himself to not be 16.3 so he can fit through the opening


Leo: I iz a teensy poneh and can totes go under the rope

It was still sprinkling, there was a bunch of lightning and thunder, the wind had picked up and the temperature had plummeted, but the horse was PERFECT. A little tense, but didn’t put a foot out of place, even when someone came cantering head on towards him. We lasted about 20 minutes before the storms came rolling back in for real and it became a little insane to be out there.

The next morning it poured some more, so everything became a sloppy, disgusting mess. It was the pre-horse trial schooling day, and my instruction from Trainer B had been to get him into the water complex, and also to get him over a few of the tiniest baby jumps IF he was handling everything well. There was a lot of excitement on the grounds, as it was a frigid 70 degrees after 90+ degree heat for the entire summer, and many a call of “Loose Horse” could be heard around the venue.

Unfortunately more than a few people experienced this over the weekend

So when I got on at the barn and walked him past mucho madness to meet everyone at show jumping and he DIDN’T melt down, I was so proud. He did have one moment when a couple horses came at him, but it was more of a “We gotta get out of the way,” spook than anything else. Unfortunately, my friend’s horse and the other client’s horse were having a rough go at life, so our XC schooling time got pushed back while the trainer could get on those guys for their schooling rounds. I ended up walking Leo across the street and just hanging out, letting him soak in the insanity that is XC schooling, and walking/trotting him around the field. AND HE WAS PERFECT. Yes, this is going to be a theme here, guys.


By then everyone else was there, so we followed along while they jumped, because my main mission was water. He stood still while everyone jumped, and didn’t even flinch when a whole group of horses came charging around the corner and up the hill towards us like the cavalry (with the trainer hollering behind them NOT to do that). The only time he got upset was when we were in a little straightaway with woods on either side and my friend cantered off on her horse. There was much sideways motion and llama neck while I convinced him we weren’t going with them, but once they got back, I decided to trot him over the glorified groundpole that is the Green as Grass jump and he had no issues moving away from our group to do just that.


Then we popped over a tiny coop, and on approach he was much more interested in the flag laying in the ground, and did a little pitter-patter with his tooties before popping right over.


But came right around and did it again.


And again.


And the water? Oh…a non-issue.



Then we hopped over a couple more little things:


And then finally strung together a mini course…and he was an angel.

Heading back to the barns, I almost got off to walk him because I figured he might get a little anxious crossing the road and going through the trailers and barn madness, but my curiosity to see how he’d handle it all won out, so I stayed on. And we ended up splitting off from the group with one of the other clients so she could go back to SJ warmup and tackle those jumps again, and Leo this time was perfectly fine with the chaos. I got off him so we could be the client’s jump crew and he followed me around like a puppy dog, and stood like a statue while she jumped. You better believe he got praised like he’d just jumped around Rolex Land Rover for how incredible he was.

Neither of us can believe how calm the other was on XC

He was so good I almost let Husband peer pressure me into entering the actual competition the next day.


And the next day, despite being cooped up in his stall most of the weekend, was perfectly calm to walk around and graze, while I watched some dressage warmup and SJ rounds.

Even getting my phone out to take a picture was not possible in June
Not caring about the multitude of tents, nor the anxious horses that were spooked by them

And while I know that there’s still a long way to go, this outing really bolstered my confidence in his brain…not to mention I had SO.MUCH.FUN.

PC: Eileen Dimond Photography



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Adulting Sucks



I had two massive grant proposals due on Friday the 16th and on August 5th the building my office is in informs us that they’re replacing the AC unit and will be closed from August 13-19. No access whatsoever. So for me, the grant proposals had to be completed by Monday the 12th, which had me working 12 hours a day at the office, then bringing my computer home at night to keep working.

Me for 7 straight days

So I’ve been working from home this last week, which meant THREE trips to Trainer B’s for Leo, and BOTH horses getting worked every day. It’s been MAJIKAL.

Not 100% sure Leo agrees with getting in the trailer every other day

Leo’s been coming along well, and I’m learning a whole new way to train an OTTB other than the “get on, ride, hope it works out” method of trainers past. It’s seriously been eye opening and with the help of P, I’ve been practicing using all my aids in a more coordinated fashion, timing my release of pressure, and just getting stronger in the saddle and on the ground in general.

Unfortunately, besides doing the back-to-basics stuff on P (reining back/halting off seat/bending, etc), P has most decidedly not been doing all that well. He’s been acting up in any gait other than walk: yanking his head down, going sideways, popping up on his front feet, a la:

This happens basically every ride. Sign me up for the next rodeo, I’m a pro

So my first thought was that the ulcers are back. Makes sense, right? He’s had quite a life for the last year, inflicting trauma after trauma upon himself, and been on plenty of meds. So I called the insurance company and set up an appt for the vet to come scope him next week.

I thought having a gray horse was bad…
…until I saw this trainwreck…
…and he wasn’t even sorry #noregrets

THEN…a few days ago after my ride on him, I noticed a small, hard bump at the base of his wither on his spine. I pressed on it and he didn’t flinch or move away, so I shrugged it off and when I came out the next day, it was gone. Rode, and it was there AGAIN after the ride. I figured maybe bug bite? Maybe it was there before the ride and I didn’t look hard enough? So I went out the next day, looked closely for it, felt his spine and there was no sign of it. Okkkk….rode for 40 minutes (hard to make yourself stay on that long when you feel all he wants to do is fly away out from under you), untacked and the bump was DEFINITELY there. I wish I’d taken a picture of it, but alas…nope.

Totally fine when a saddle isn’t on

So I Googled and read a few places that if the saddle is causing pressure somewhere, it can cause fluid build up somewhere else.

Leo hanging with the kids

Then I went out yesterday, put the saddle on P with no pads and it seemed just fine. Even contact, no rocking— looks great. UNTIL I ran my hand down inside the front of the flap and MY HAND GOT STUCK.

The Tiniest Dictator is seriously a horse whisperer

We don’t have a plethora of saddle fitters in the area, nor do we have any local tack shops, but I contacted the rep of a fairly newish brand I want to try, and I’m going to get in touch with a local part-time fitter who has worked with BO and some of the other boarders.

Either that or the 1,000+ animals are just afraid of the T.D. That’s a totally realistic possibility as well.

My dear Volty has been amazing, and the thought of not riding in it makes me want to cry, but I feel like maybe this time, wool flocking is the way to go.

Is the T.D. kissing Leo’s nose or whispering threats to him? We’ll never know the truth.

So we’ll see what happens. For now, Volty seems to be fine on Leo, though I’m not sure how long that will last, as Leo is changing shape somewhat. But I would also like to be able to ride P, and clearly Volty and P simply do not mix anymore. The ideal situation would be to get a saddle that fits both horses in a way that I could customize it further to each horse with a half pad. But damn, I’m seriously not looking forward to trying saddles. I’d rather get a new house than a new saddle.

If P weren’t in his stall, you better believe he’d be running towards the T.D. as well. These two crack me up

Tomorrow (well, today, as I’m scheduling this to be published in the AM) Leo and I head BACK to Trainer B’s for the 4th time in 8 days.

There will never be anything cuter than P and the T.D. Even if both are a little evil in their own way

And then Leo and I are going to Carolina Horse Park this weekend for some hanging with friends and *possibly* some official XC schooling. Because…

Plotting together? Maybe

…we are tentatively planning Leo’s eventing debut!


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An Ode to the Horse Husband

Ah, Husband. Some of you have SOs who knew full well the crazy they were getting themselves into when they decided to date/marry you. That’s not the tale Husband gets to tell.

When I met Husband, I was finishing up college and at that point hadn’t ridden a horse in about 7 years. Horses came up from time to time in conversation, but as I figured my horse days were long behind me, it wasn’t a main focus.

Now he says I look at my horses the way I used to look at him

We dated, I graduated college, we got married, I started my career, he re-enlisted in the Marines, we bought a house, we had a kid…something was missing but I didn’t know what it was.


Then about 3 years after we first got married, one August day in 2010, I walked into a public speaking course, hating life because public speaking, while necessary for my job, was something I dreaded.


But as introductions were made, one stood out to me- a girl who said that for fun she rode dressage.


Now, I’d lived in NC at that point for 4 years and I’d never heard of anything remotely horsey, never even seen a horse trailer, so hearing the word “dressage” after 10 years was startling. But we talked, she invited me out to her barn to meet her horse, and 5 minutes after patting the ol’ guy’s neck, I decided I NEEDED my own horse. Stat.

Problem was….Husband was deployed to Afghanistan. He was infantry, so wasn’t on a base and could only communicate via letters (which took WEEKS to go back and forth) and the occasional phone call from a satellite phone. Sat phones were the bane of my existence during deployments. They only worked for outgoing calls, so I was at the mercy of waiting for him to call 24/7, and they were so unreliable that you never knew if you’d get 30 minutes or 30 seconds. So when that # flashed on my screen, I answered and without even a hello said, “Hey, I want to get a horse.”

Husband off saving the world, not knowing what he was going to come back home to

But he said to go for it (because he had NO IDEA what he was encouraging), so a week before he arrived home, I’d purchased Jester for $700 w/delivery included, a basically unbroke 9 year old Paint/TB cross gelding. And Matt came home after a 7 month deployment at 6 AM, we took some pictures and immediately headed to the barn.

7 AM
Matt & Jester
9 AM

Husband later admitted that he assumed having a horse was pretty much like having a dog that lived somewhere else. Sorry, Husband. I didn’t even really know what I was getting us into.


Because the area was so decidedly non-horse friendly, I had no trainer options and instead, relied on Husband videoing on our camcorder so that I could later upload the video to our desktop computer and compare my videos to pictures and videos of professionals. THEN I would write notes of what I needed to work on, drag Husband BACK out to the barn the following day, and he’d simultaneously video while reading me my notes.


And he did it all. Every time. No complaints. Even though it was mostly stuff like this thriller below- 2 minutes of counterbent trotting along the rail.

He came to my shows and cheered the loudest of anyone when I won a walk/trot class (I KNOW, that was what was AVAILABLE, ok?).

Class sheet of the local horse show series in that area. Jester and I killed in the Field Hunter W/T

He agreed to trade in one of our cars in order to get our first truck. And a month later when we went on our annual family vacay to Michigan, agreed to take one of the days he could be spending at the lake to go buy a horse trailer….then drive it 17 hours home.

It took 3 of my uncles to help park it because Husband & I had NO IDEA what we were doing
But I was so excited

Then when I found a quasi-dressage trainer that was the closest available, Husband would drive 1.5 hours one way with me to video. And if the sun was in the way, he freaking BLOCKED THE SUN (1:11 of the video).

And when we decided to go for Kid #2, Husband respectfully requested that I not ride, as it made him nervous. So I agreed and, having wanted to try Jester in eventing anyway but not having facilities anywhere nearby, sent Jester to a trainer a couple hours away to introduce him to dressage arenas and XC fences. Unfortunately, a pasture accident a month into training left Jester with an irreparable broken leg, so Husband drove me the 2 hours to say goodbye.


And a few weeks later, these momentos arrived, courtesy of Husband. I had no idea he’s gotten any of Jester’s tail hair, and he said he didn’t tell me because he didn’t want to upset me further.

A few months later the Tiniest Dictator came into the world and shortly after, we packed up and moved to the Charlotte area, using the horse trailer for storage, as I was horseless.


But not for long, because while I was sort of looking, sort of not, our anniversary was coming and Husband had plans. He knew which one I wanted based off of how much talking I did about this horse so…

Baby P face!

And resumed his Husband duties of videoing every excruciating trot circle and canter transition, still with no complaints. But this chapter is where he started inserting his own commentary (you know what I’m talking about if you follow me on IG) into most videos.

He makes me laugh when I hear a ridiculous accent:

He has the ability to make you sit on the edge of your seat. Will they make it??

Sometimes he ran into things:

He’s videoed more BN dressage tests than I can even give him credit for. And usually I wouldn’t even watch the video- I’d grab a screenshot or two and forget the rest.

1 hr of travel time + 20 minutes of warmup + 5 minute test + 1 hr of travel time back = ONE satisfactory screenshot

And, oh yeah, he’s Super Dad. Usually while he’d be videoing, he’s also be wrangling control over a 6 year old and 1 year old. More than one dressage judge has heard him threatening our kids with bodily harm if they disrupt my test.


Though sometimes he uses the horse as a weapon…

He continues to be baffled by the fact that I only want horse stuff for birthdays/special occasions. But he’s compliant.


P loves going to shows with him because he knows Husband brings food.

And I love him going to shows because he’s an excellent…

…Drinking partner. Even at 10 AM…
…Nerve dissipater…
…Fence scale…
…Horse show cook…
…and Selfie taker.

The last 3 Father’s Days have fallen on horse show weekends..


And there was that one year that we spent his birthday at Windridge and not only did he NOT complain, he came out for the dressage/SJ day to video in the pouring rain, and THEN he said that my winning the event was the best birthday present (which is insanely cheesy, can not possibly be true, but 100% how Husband is).


When I said I wanted to buy a hammock so I could sleep in the horse area of my trailer at shows instead of stay in hotels, he found me a turquoise one.


Then when I decided that sleeping in a hammock was NOT for me (after one night) and said I wanted AC in my dressing room, he took my trailer to the shop.


THEN when I wanted the dressing room insulated so it held heat/AC better, he bought all the materials and got to work.


He’s even gotten in front of the camera a few times to help solidify our nonstop contest winning. It all started because I really wanted those free Kastel shirts but the contest was geared specifically for men. Luckily I have Husband.

It did take a *tiny* bit of convincing, though.

And that led to him playing the part of “Crazy Pilgrim” in our Triple Crown contest submission (which, of course, we won). Husband is at 2:18 in the video.

And most recently to our submission for some free Coat Defense, which…we won.



And been a co-conspirator on other crazy videos we’ve done, like “Game Day:”

Because everyone should test to see how their horses handle getting beaned by a football.

He did the AM handwalking for me while P was on stall rest (and after this terrifying video, underwent an intense course on how to properly secure a rope halter):

And through it all has videoed pretty much everything- with his own twist, of course.

He rushed to the barn when P created the Foot Hole and offered more than once to do P’s midnight eye meds so I could sleep; and when I agonized over the mounting vet bills and seemingly never-endingness of the eye ulcer, he just said we had to do what was right for P.

He lets P play with his zippers, which P appreciates

Every year for P’s birthday he buys decorations. The 2 years I was in KY over P’s birthday, he took the kids out and they sang him Happy Birthday and gave him treats.




When I was in Nashville for a bachelorette party, Husband went to the barn and surprise-FaceTime’d me from P’s stall.



Then I had this INSANE idea to get ANOTHER horse.

Literally me after bringing it up in conversation with Husband

And Husband said, “Go for it.”

So I did.


And Husband was there when I arrived back from DE with Leo in tow to video and snap some pictures.

And he’s still videoing the most boring things ever with his most expert commentating.

And I still have yet to hear him complain. Love you, Husband!

Being the best Horse Husband ever is exhausting


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Two Horses is a Game Changer

When I first thought about adding a second horse, I was concerned about a few things, mainly my perpetual shortage of time. P has always been a 6x/week horse and there were days where I had to rush to get him ridden between work and familial obligations. It’s especially time consuming when you board at an amazing barn with amazing people that you just want to talk to.


But now that I’ve had 2 horses for a little over 8 weeks, I’m loving where I’m at mentally.

Despite the fail pictures/gifs that I routinely post, I’m very much a perfectionist. And exclusively riding P was hard because the only thing P is consistent at is being inconsistent. I’ve joked many times that owning P was the equivalent of owning at least 5 horses, since P is definitely a quad-polar and you never knew which personality you’d get on any given day.

I will never not laugh at this meme

When P was initially laid up and I started riding other horses (shoutout to especially S, B & C!!), initially I brought a lot of baggage along each ride. I anticipated stopping at jumps, spooking, running off…all things that weren’t really there. And it took awhile for me to stop projecting P on these other horses (it also taught me to appreciate the really good things about P, like ground manners, trailer loading and his gait adjustability). But I learned some new tools and how to separate rides on different horses instead of treating them all the same.

On his first XC course EVER, S took me right over a jump P had previously gotten us eliminated at
No helmet cam of B, but he was great to ride at home
C got me back jumping the bigger things

And that was something I desperately needed to learn before bringing home my very own blank slate. I can’t imagine getting on Leo and riding him the way I ride P. It would’ve been disastrous.

When it was just P & I, P had the power to make or ruin my day. If we had a bad ride, or even a bad part of the ride, I’d lament that I was clearly the worst rider in the world and clearly P was just terrible and clearly I should just never ride again. I’d dwell on it, vent about it to long-suffering Husband, think about it….yes, I’m aware of the ridiculousness.


But Sunday I realized that no longer seemed to be the case, so I’ll use that day as an example.

Let’s start with a snippet from Leo’s most recent lesson we had on Sunday- first, justlook at that flying change and adjustability and try not to swoon:

Right now we’re working a lot on suppling Leo using inside aids and it’s so cool to feel the lightbulb click on with him. He’s not the most naturally relaxed horse and he gets a little antsy when he doesn’t understand something, but he tries so hard, which is all I can ask for.

Trying, but just can’t hold it for too long

While the transition leaves A LOT of room for improvement…

Like erupting from the start gate

…The canter itself is insanely nice.

And SO comfy

Even when he jumps the groundpole:


So needless to say, while it wasn’t perfect and everything didn’t majikally fall into place, the lesson on Sunday left me feeling practically giddy over the progress Leo (and I) have made. And when we got back to the barn I pulled P out for his 4th ride of the week- the first week since FEBRUARY that he’s been ridden more than one day of the week.

And…P was less than pleased at this obvious testament that his year-long hiatus was over.


In other news…after 5 years, P STILL can’t figure out how to buck.


And while one-horse-KC would’ve been distraught that my ride of the day was spent on the back of Free Willy and not on *real* riding, two-horse-KC let it roll right off her back because she don’t need no Pilgrim to make her happy anymore.

mmmm-hmmmmm *snaps fingers*

For me, that’s a HUGE win. The mental part of riding has always been my nemesis. If things didn’t go to plan, I was a mess. And we all know how well horses and plans mix…

About as well as my plan to put just one stride in between these jumps went…

But because everything hinged on the one horse I owned and rode, I put too much pressure on myself and on the horse. Which surely didn’t help us get further any faster.

Story of my life

So while I’m still a work in progress, on Sunday afternoon, when I found myself laughing about P’s shenanigans instead of overthinking, I realized that FINALLY…I might just be on the right track.

Proof P had some good moments. Building back up muscle is hard, yo



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Leo Survives….XC!!

It’s so strange to be back in the land of wi-fi and horses. I left July 5th for a week-long family vacation in Michigan, which involved 64 of my closest relatives packed into 4 small cabins on a lake. It’s a yearly thing, but thanks to Husband’s educational/employment endeavors, we haven’t been in the past 3 years. It was great to see everyone we don’t see throughout the year, as we’re scattered around Chicago/Virginia/NC, but a week of no horses is way too long! Thanks to the lack of wi-fi and basic internet connection, I couldn’t even get my horse fix through y’all’s blogs, so I’ll be stalking them throughout the day to catch up on what I missed.


The day before I left, Leo and I went up to Trainer B’s and a boarder came with me to get MEDIA. And she picked the perfect time to come, as Leo was the most amazing ball of amazingness.

We started with a bunch of work on the flat, getting him to relax. When he lets go, man-oh-man, you won’t want to go against him in dressage. Homeboy has some serious fancy pants he occasionally flashes.



Then we trotted a bunch of poles, which he’s done quite a lot, then over a teensy x-rail.

Then with one half of the 2nd x-rail up:

Then TWO x-rails. Hitting the big time here.

Then Leo’s first vertical!

We did that a few more times, then headed out to the XC field for some real fun.

First up was the ditch. Trainer B has 3 levels of ditches in a row. You can start with the log with the dip behind it, then graduate to the faux ditch with the sand/pole, then next to that is the legit ditch. We started by walking around it both ways, then trotting over the teeny log before coming around to the middle faux ditch. I sat in the backseat, just letting him have his head and encouraging with my leg and he hesitated for a split second but DID NOT STOP before popping right over!

Then we went the other way, with no issues.

Then threw in the flamingos just for fun.

Then went to the water. Leo’s been in both of Carolina Horse Park’s water complexes, but this was the first time he’s seen the dyed turquoise water. And he clearly didn’t trust it once he saw it, so we spent a few minutes doing laps around the edge, getting closer and closer…

…Until he decided we miiiight not be trying to kill him, and oh so gingerly stepped in:

Then we just walked in and out from all different sides until there was no hesitation and called it a day!

Then Leo promptly got a week off while I was gone, and decided he didn’t need hind shoes.

Then the next day he twisted his OTHER hind shoe. AGF came out and fixed them both, then Friday he did the same thing to his front right. So clips it is!

So we’ll spend this week getting back in the swing of things before heading to Trainer B’s on Saturday to see what’s next!

Leo’s ONE fail from the day where he found out he needs to watch where he puts those lanky legs of his



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Leo Survives…A Lot of Trailer Rides

Thanks sooooo much for all the kind comments and commiserations! It was definitely a low point in life with P, and I’m pleased to report that it’s been 11 entire days since P’s last vet visit. He did try this out:

After the Foot Hole this didn’t even make me flinch

But AGF slapped some epoxy right on and said to ignore it.

AGF 🙌🙌🙌

Despite being med–free for 6 days now, his eye continues to remain wide open and as far as I can tell, the pupil isn’t dilated anymore. The vet had said it could take 2 weeks for the Atropine to wear off, and it’s been 11 days, but he’ll continue to wear the eye patch on his fly mask until Friday anyway.

But the bug mask is a thing of the past 😬

Leo had an insanely long weekend. It started Thursday, when I attempted the right lead canter. Up until then, I’ve only cantered him 3x, and only to the left. He has an incredible canter and is so adjustable, you forget he raced just last month…until you try to steer him, that is.


This was the first canter. I’m not exactly sure what I’m doing with my body other than I had in my head that I was conveying relaxation and trying to stay as still as possible. The next time I cantered him I experimented with sitting in the saddle and making small adjustments with my body, which resulted in an incredibly uphill canter that of course was NOT caught on camera #FirstWorldProblems

But the right lead canter was a much different beast. He bolted into it, then bolted around the arena, almost careening into jump standards and the arena fence. Then to the left was as quiet as a mouse. Luckily we were heading to Trainer B’s the next day, and he fixed errrrything. Hallelujah.

Leo looking relaxed at Trainer B’s…or maybe exhausted 🤷‍♀️

Saturday was a local-ish schooling CT/Jumper show that I had planned on taking Leo to just to hang out, but I ended up coercing my BO into entering with a client’s horse so I’d at least have something interesting to watch. So Leo got back on the trailer with a new friend, and we spent a good 4 hours just hanging out in the atmosphere. He learned horse shows = ear rubs and treats, and was relaxed the entire time.

It took approximately 50,000 pictures before my friend got got this one of him looking remotely interested in something other than grass
After convincing the judge that I wasn’t there to compete him, they let me wander around the jump arena with him. This was the spookiest jump and he just wanted to taste test 🤔
All the ear rubs ❤️

Sunday it was BACK on the trailer to go BACK to Trainer B’s, to make up for lost time since Trainer B has selfishly been competing (and winning) on his own horses. We started in the main arena just waking over poles of various heights, then headed to the dressage/gymnastic arena where (drum roll) Leo and I “jumped” for the first time! I mean, as much as a 16.3 hand horse jumps a cross-rail.

About the right visual

Then we headed to the XC field and as nervous as he felt the first time he saw all the crazy jumps, he was super brave about stepping over the log back and forth a zillion times, and we called it a day.

Our 80 minute session at Trainer B’s on Sunday saw us doing ALL THE THINGS. If you haven’t already, this free app called Equilab is amazing for tracking rides/training sessions.

We’re heading back there Thursday (and I miiiiight have company, which means MEDIA) before dear Leo gets the week off while I head on family vacay. I think he was just glad to get a day off of getting in the trailer.


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Leo Surivives…A Show

Welcome to another installment of the hit new series, “Leo Survives…” You can view the pilot episode, “Leo Survives…His First Lesson” here.


In the week and a half between these posts (I’m SORRY, Michele, there just haven’t been enough hours in the day), Leo’s had 4 more rides and a play day in the arena puddles, since there are NEVER puddles in the arena. Our rides are quite boring, as they are currently just a bunch of walk/trot/halt transitions and learning to steer. He has pretty good natural balance, but he’s also still very track tight and carries a LOT of tension in his back/neck/jaw.

Moments like these don’t last long so I screenshot for memories

So our rides are fairly low-key with lots of serpentines, figure-8s, circles and some lateral work to loosen him up. When he relaxes he goes into this absolutely lovely natural frame, but when he’s tense, he’s like riding a giraffe stuck in quicksand.

Like this

Here’s a video of his 7th ride- it’s SUPER boring, but I’m posting it anyways, so I can reference it in the future.

And here he is playing in the puddles. No hesitation and he seemed to quite like the water!

And over a pole!

He got new front shoes and back shoes put on, so I’m hoping that helps him get more comfy with using himself, the way it did for P.

AGF working his AGF magic

He’s now been off the track for 30 days, so naturally it was time to take him to a show. And because P-Bug still needs round-the-clock eye meds, he got to come along as well. First time off the farm for something besides a vet visit in a year!

This was the first time I’ve had Leo and P right next to each other- height difference much?

We went along with Trainer B and the team to Carolina Horse Park’s War Horse Event Series. It definitely wasn’t my first choice for his first show, as it’s really a lot of atmosphere to take in, but it was also my only shot at taking him to something like this for the next couple months, so we went to get it over with. He and P did well on the trailer ride, which I was absolutely FREAKING OUT over. I’ve never trailered two horses together and was absolutely petrified they’d fight or get injured one way or another, but we all arrived intact and the 2 boys stood on the trailer sharing hay while I got their stalls ready.


I took Leo out for a walk around the grounds and we did a lot of standing and staring into the distance. He didn’t seem to care about the normal spooky stuff, like banners, tents, flowers, decorations, etc, but it seemed as if he were trying to find the track. And…CHP happens to have one. Sort of. It’s grass and I’m not sure it’s really used anymore, but it is there and while I’m not 100% certain that’s what he was looking at, he sure was intent on staring in that direction.


He was good about the stall and spent his time with his face mashed into his hay bag. It definitely helped that P was there as a calming presence, as he’s always been good about being off-property and has been to CHP a bunch of times. The only tense time was when my friend played the track sound and Leo DEFINITELY remembered it.

Then we did it to P, who tried to eat her phone.

-SmhSaturday was when it would get chaotic. This event series is unrecognized and Saturday is always their schooling day. For an additional fee you can school dressage/stadium/XC and because of this, the barns are nearly always at full capacity (192 stalls), with even more people trailering in for the day. Even P lost his damn mind the first time I came here for this horse trial back in 2017. It’s the reason I would’ve preferred to have gotten Leo to a smaller show at least once before coming here, but alas, the timing was not meant to be so sorry kid, I’m throwing ya into the deep end of the pool.

I went to take this picture of all our horses staring at SOMETHING and afterwards, realized that one of these things is not like the other. Oh P

Trainer B wanted us to come out on XC that morning, but it would’ve cost me $100 just to walk/trot around the field (we clearly weren’t going to jump anything), so I opted to skip that and instead take him around the areas we had been to the evening before. But then I got brave and we wandered closer to the XC fields, which are across the street from the rest of the venue. And when no one stopped us, we walked further down the lane so he could see both sides of the XC course. Then Trainer B and some clients came up and Trainer B said to follow them around as long as we could on the XC course. So…we did.

we-made-it-out-hallelujahWhile there was much prancing and jigging sideways, he handled it better than expected. I can pretty much assume he’s never been in the woods, let alone when there are horses/riders flying around corners and leaping over things, and you can hear so much but not see everything. He went right into both water complexes with no issue and at the very end, after being out 1.5 hours, hopped over a little log with no fuss and Trainer B declared him a jumper.

Sunday was the show so I couldn’t do much, as everyone had pretty tight ride times so there was much helping/videoing/cheering to do. But at the end, Leo and P loaded right back up into the trailer, and were clearly happy to be home. P took off and galloped around his field a few times and Leo walked 5 ft and stuck his face in the grass.

This week will be pretty low-key, as Trainer B is heading to NJ for a horse trial, but I’m tentatively planning on taking Leo to a local hunter show this Saturday to hang out again. Which, after this weekend, should be a piece of cake.




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P-Bug’s Life Is So Hard

It’s been awhile since P had a post, and while I’m not exactly convinced he deserves one, I do still love the idiot (despite what I may say at times).

P’s been battling this eye ulcer thing since May 6th and it’s been exhausting. Up until last week he was on 5 different meds that had to be administered every 6 hours, with 2x/week vet visits and it just wasn’t healing. To P’s credit, he’s been very good about me shoving ointment after ointment in his eye at midnight loose in his field, but quite frankly, it was exhausting.

Me every night I get in the car to go BACK to the barn

So because P has been so good about the meds, when I went out there on Memorial Day to do his morning meds and he wouldn’t even let me touch his face, I got quite worried. When I checked on him a few hours later at a time when the Banamine I’d given him should’ve already kicked in and he was STILL as non-compliant about it, I figured something was in there or he’d re-injured it, so I called the vet. Because of course I have $135 just lying around to use on an emergency vet call 48 hours after he’d already seen her.


She came out and of course nothing was out of the ordinary, but the thing still wasn’t healing nearly as fast as it should and I was (and still am) pretty much at the end of my rope with being at the barn 3x/day. She mentioned there was an animal ophthalmologist about an hour away and so the next AM, I called them to see if I could get an appointment because SOMETHING had to give. Even though he still does this when I come to get him, despite him clearly knowing at this point it’s to shove things in his eye.

The eye clinic said they could see him that afternoon so I called my vet and she sent over all his records and pictures to them, then I loaded P in the trailer and off we went.

The ophthalmologist (why is that word SO hard to type?) did an exam and gave me a few options:

  1. Switch is existing antibiotic eye med to a stronger one. Cost: $100
  2. Do a Diamond Burr Debridement, which removes the damaged corneal tissue. At that point, my regular vet had done 3 debridements with a plain cotton swab to clean up the edges around the ulcer, but this was a bit more involved. Cost: $200
  3. Combine #1 & #2
  4. Perform a keratectomy, which removes the entire ulcer and any abnormal tissue. Cost: $900

Maybe it was the sleep deprivation, because I’m still waiting to hear if insurance will cover it, but I went with the keratectomy + the stronger antibiotic + I opted to have the ulcer biopsied to make sure there was nothing crazy that was causing this. Total cost (with sedation and meds): $1,469.

Luckily they were able to do it right then and there, and the whole thing took less than 30 minutes. P was a model patient and the two vet techs had a brief bickering spat on which one would be the one to walk him around to help him wake up. The thought of leaving him there may or may not have crossed my mind.


I had to walk always after that

Along with the surgery, came a new meds schedule that still feels incredibly weird. He gets one med (Atropine) 1x/day, and then 2 cc’s of Ofloxacin squirted in to his eye 3x/day, followed by Voriconazole squirted into his eye 3x/day. It seems so counter-intuitive to back down on the meds, but this guy’s the specialist + it gets me a little more sleep. So I go there and do his AM meds, then BO does his early afternoon ones and then I go back out around 10 PM to do the bedtime ones. Not ideal, of course, but easier to swallow than midnight.

Husband texted me last night from his oceanfront beach hotel suite (he’s on a “work” trip) so I sent him this

He had a checkup with our regular vet yesterday and while it’s still not healed (the ophthalmologist said 2-3 week healing time is typical), it’s definitely smaller than it was pre-surgery. The ophthalmologist called me this AM to let me know the biopsy came back and didn’t show anything crazy or infected, which is great news, so for now we’re just staying the course. So hopefully a week or two more to go and we can put this behind us. I’m sure something new will come up, though. I’ve become quite cynical these last few months.

May 24th (pre-surgery): the green stain shows how large the ulcer was. It was getting shallower but not closing up width-wise
June 3rd: much smaller

One thing I’m NOT cynical about, however, is the fact that P perhaps should be a movie star. When I was hauling him to the ophthalmologist (and not happy about it), I got the notification that we won another contest, this time for Coat Defense! I’ve previously talked about this product, and HAD to enter (despite the fact P was lame), as I was running low on the Preventative Powder. The video had to be under 30 seconds and show how you use their products. Nailed it.


So…despite the fact that at that point P still didn’t have front shoes on and was quite footsore, not to mention he was in the midst of an eye infection, he’s kept up his streak of winning every contest he’s been entered in. So I guess I’ll keep him around.

They sent me a hat (in turquoise!), a patch and a FULL-SIZE bottle of Preventative Powder. I go through that stuff like candy so it was a very exciting day


P approves. Husband knows to treat that stuff like gold.

He’s also been back in a (somewhat) regular riding schedule and while I’m pretty sure he’d be just fine with being used for weird videos, I’m hoping that by channeling some of his energy he can cool it with the insane vet visits for awhile.

First ride after getting shoes on after being barefoot up front for 6 weeks


Rocking his “new” PS of Sweden, whose beauty is only slightly diminished by the Bug Mask

Until we’re even (which will be never), I’ll just find new ways to torture him, like making him run through the arena sprinklers. Because if I have to pay off my vet’s mortgage for your stupid eye, you can entertain me, minion. He was SO angry at me for this. I loved every second.